Compromise isn’t a bad thing. Although it can be, the type of compromise I’m talking about is healthy compromise.
First of all, what does compromise mean? According to Merriam Webster online, the definition which I find applicable is
something intermediate between or blending qualities of two different things
The reason this definition fits well is that because in any relationship (whether it’s a friendship, a family member, or your spouse) in order to be happy, there will have to be a blending of two different things. Say for example you’re dating someone who loves watching the Bachelorette but you love watching Golf – how can you blend these together? Well, you could let them have their time to watch the Bachelorette and in turn, they would let you watch golf during the final round on Sundays. This would be a hands off compromise. A more involved compromise would be her watching golf with you and you watching the Bachelorette with her. This is a healthier compromise I believe because both partners are taking an interest in each other’s lives (albeit through television, but an interest nonetheless).
With family members, a compromise could involve how often you visit, where you visit, christmas presents, etc…
With friends, a compromise could involve having someone different choose a restaurant/movie each time so the same person isn’t always getting what they want.
The amazing thing with individuals is that everyone has their own unique interests. Many times, whether in a friendship or relationship, these interests will overlap, but the beauty is that when they don’t, you do have the ability to blend those different interests together.
It will make for unexpected situations, discovering new happiness and having a different perspective on everyday things. The next time you are in a situation where a compromise seems like the only option…go for it. You might surprise yourself with how much fun you end up having!