Dealing with Disappointment

No Comments 29 July 2012

The gift of disappointment is to bring us into reality so we don’t get stuck in the realm of how things might have been.

Whenever we do something in life with an expectation of how we’d like it to turn out, we risk experiencing disappointment. When things don’t go the way we had envisioned, we may feel a range of emotions from slightly let down to depressed or even angry. We might direct our feelings inward toward ourselves, or outward toward other people or the universe in general. Whether we feel disappointed by ourselves, a friend, or life in general, disappointment is always a tough feeling to experience. Still, it is a natural part of life, and there are many ways of dealing with it when we find ourselves in its presence.

As with any feeling, disappointment has come to us for a reason, and we don’t need to fear acknowledging it or feeling it. The more we are able to accept how we are feeling and process it, the sooner we will move into new emotional territory. As we sit down to allow ourselves to feel our disappointment, we might want to write about the experience of being disappointed—the situation that preceded it, what we were hoping would happen, and what did happen. The gift of disappointment is its ability to bring us into alignment with reality so that we don’t get stuck for too long in the realm of how things might have been.

As we consider other disappointments in our life and how we have moved past them, we may even see that in some cases what happened was actually better in the long run than what we had wanted to happen. Disappointment often leaves us feeling deflated with its message that things don’t always turn out the way we want. The beauty of disappointment, though, is that it provides us a bridge to its other side where the acceptance of reality, wisdom, and the energy to begin again can be found.


Thoughts, World Issues

The Demise of Guys – What is Going On?

No Comments 23 July 2012

Have you heard of “The Demise of Guys“? If you haven’t, you should check out the website. It makes sense, it’s clear to me by talking to my friends and hearing what is going on in our society. We are a society driven by business – in this case the video game industry and the pornographic industry. Both fantasy industries. We’re creating these worlds where men can realize their fantasies but then when they’re back in the “real world” they realize they can never satisfy those desires. Videos games and porn are like drugs. But drugs that are affecting their social skills and intimacy in a frighteningly fast way.

Some takeaways from the video –

– guys are out of sync romantically and socially

– guys drop out of school at a 30% higher rate than girls

– girls are outperforming guys at all academic levels

– guys are developing a fear of intimacy

– guys prefer online activities to in person activities (video games, porn)

– guys have an arousal addiction

– guys will have played, by the time they are 21, an average of 10,000 hours of video games, mostly by themselves (the same time it takes to master a skill) and they would probably would have heard a thousand OverWatch News throughout the years.

– guys will watch on average 50 porn clips a week (note: for every 400 Hollywood movies, there are 11,000 porn movies produced)

What do you think can be done?

Personally, I think we need to start spreading the awareness for this issue. I don’t have either of these issues but there are millions of guys out there who do. By them being aware it’s a problem, they will be able to recognize that within themselves (hopefully) and start working on fixing it before it’s too late, and don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with checking the site once in a while, but there has to be a balance.

Check out the video below. Some really interesting learning points.

Sports, Thoughts

Being Competitive vs Competing

No Comments 07 July 2012

From playing sports my entire life, I know a thing or two about competing. I’ve met a lot of people over the years who were good and I’ve met a lot who weren’t so good. But I always find it amusing when someone says that they are “very competitive”.

But what does being competitive mean? If you look at the definition, you could say that it means being inclined to compete. However, when I look at the idea of being competitive, I think a more suitable definition would be “to compete with a chance of winning”. Or rather, “to be good at the activity you are competing in”.

This relates to the notion of when people talk about playing in a tournament and being competitive. To me that means they have a chance of winning. Can someone be competitive if they aren’t very good or if they don’t have a chance of winning? I don’t think so.

The next time you tell someone you’re “really competitive” think about what you mean when you say that. If you’re referring to something that you’re not good at, just say “I really like doing X activity”. Then, keep practicing until you can say that you’re competitive at that activity.

About Rob

Rob "Frisbee Rob" McLeod is a motivational speaker and frisbee ambassador living in Calgary, Alberta, Canada. He competes in ultimate, disc golf, dog disc and overall flying disc competitions. Rob currently holds 6 Guinness World Records, 10 World Championships and the Canadian Distance Record.


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